sexual vampires and their prey

We've all known someone like this. Otherwise known
as the 'selfish lover.' These are the lovers that
expect you to spend countless hours massaging them with
your tongue, stroking them with your hand until it practically
falls off, and then making sure their rocket orbits around
the moon even if yours never leaves the launch pad.


As a girl, I found it hard to vouch for my sex as far as how many
of us are or are not selfish lovers. The best I can do is estimate
but even that would be of no use. This being said, this is
not a blog to bash men, albeit it may, on surface level, appear
to be as much. Overall though, it is more of a complaint against
the individuals who expect it all and give nothing back.
Given that I am a woman who has not had sexual relations with
another woman, beyond heavy make-out sessions, I can not
accurately state how many women are selfish lovers but
feel free to leave your experiences.


However, when it comes to men, I've got more than enough
to banish their sex to the depths of hell and back for all
the selfish lovers I have endured or left in the midst of
their sexually excited prime. Perhaps much of my complaint
lies in not having a strong emotional bond with the man and
his lack of desire to not please those he does not have emotional
investment in, but regardless, in general one could assume
that you would always want to be remembered well when it
came to sexual adventures as you never know where it may
land you further down the road, albeit it more sex from that
individual or perhaps a friend who was so overwhelmed by
your remarkable sexual prowess that they simply had to
see for themself if you were as orgasmic as they were lead
to believe.


Women like to please, men don't. It's not an observation,
it's an almost hardened fact. Women will go out of our
way to please others, and perhaps this is our downfall,
but men don't seem to complain about it too often when
it leads to them receiving countless blowjobs, hand jobs
and naughty outfits strictly for their amusement.


Yet when it comes to sex, there seems to be an abundance of
male selfish lovers and I believe I have had them all. Ones
who expect a decent amount of foreplay, translation: give
them a deep throated blow job until they are primed and ready
to thrust it into you somewhere else and your jaw has gone
numb with the pain of having his manhood repeatedly shoved
in and out, while he is not necessarily eager to reciprocate
the action for you, on any level. At this point, the selfish
lover simply inserts his cock into another hole and has
at it. Despite all the prior knowledge that women take far
longer to heat up then men but, eh, who cares if she's
rip-roaring and ready to go – just dose her with a bottle
of lube and instant human blow up doll.


Last time I checked, sex required more than one active participant.
If you are only looking to satisfy yourself, visit the sex
shop and purchase yourself a toy and some videos. Since
sex for our species is not done primarily with the intent
of procreation then it can be said that sexual satisfaction
should be enjoyed by both parties (this is not to necessarily
claim that both parties must orgasm as there are other ways
to pleasure your partner sufficiently).


Per a discussion with a friend, who by all means is an extremely
selfish lover (although he claims this is different when
he has a deeper emotional attachment to the person), I have
learned that perhaps for some, just sex with someone is
no more than a means to an end with a living, breathing object
and one who doesn't make you do all the work. According
to him, "Men don't get what women get out of doing
something for someone else. We don't enjoy pleasing
someone else. Doesn't do anything for me anyway."
Now granted, I know this does not pertain to all men, in all
situations but it certainly explains my abundance of selfish
lovers.


Personally, I am a sexaholic. I love sex and I love pleasing
my partner, probably moreso than most women. I am always
eager to go down on my guy and definitely down for a good romp
in the "bedroom" as well as adorn slutty outfits
to heighten his arousal; yet, should this mean that simply
because I am overly eager to have his cock in my mouth in my
school girl outfit that I should not be entitled to him finding
some way to please me?


People who fail to take the time to pleasure their partners
are certainly missing out on the best sex, regardless of
whether they get their rocks off or not. From experience,
I can vouch that once you've burned me in the sack you
are through. And if you are okay with having to find someone
new to fill your need every time it arises then by all means
have at your selfish sex but if not, learn to reciprocate.



Sex is something we engage in out of the sheer pleasure of
it. It is not a necessity in this day in age. Given recent
medical abilities, we can impregnate women without a man
being present, all we need are his best swimmers, and almost
all of us are experts at self-gratification: so what is
the point of sex if not to have a mutually pleasurable experience
with someone else?