Beginners : "Let's try something new

1. Talk through exactly what will happen, being
as specific as possible, so there are no surprises.


2. Set rules and stick to them: how far are each of
you prepared to go and under what circumstances?


3. Decide on a "safe word" that means
"Stop now." Make it something you're definitely
not going to say accidentally.


4. Remember your relationship is more important,
at every moment, than the experience you're having.
Constantly check in with each other.


5. Don't be afraid to use your "safe word"
to stop the experience if you feel upset. It doesn't
mean you're prudish, just prudent.


6. If your partner gets upset, stop everything
immediately and go to their emotional rescue.